New Method 19 | Develop Adult Friendships
This is your weekly affirmation to help you build your personal philosophy. Have a great weekend!
Take a deep breathe in...and say it with me...
We actively seek new friends that we have chosen for their qualities. There comes a turning point when we start to shed the friends we made that were arbitrary and default. We went to the same school. We grew up next door to each other. Our parents were friends. And so on. Some of these friends will grow with you and some of them will not. We build new relationships on the basis of shared beliefs and ideals so that we do not feel alone in our New Methods journey. Even though it can be weird and hard and embarrassing to make new friends as a grown-up, we know that healthy social bonds are key to our survival and so we push through.
Actions
- Expand Your Circle: Join local or virtual groups aligned with your interests, like a book club, yoga class, or Meetup for creatives. Watch Frances Ha or Firefly Lane for stories about evolving friendships. Join The Stack World and come to our monthly social.
- Create Intentional Connections: Host a dinner or coffee meet-up with people who inspire you.
- Reassess Your Social Landscape: Reflect on your current friendships. Are they nurturing or draining? Read Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman for guidance on cultivating deep connections.
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