philosophy

New Method 32 | Start with 50/50

Sharmadean Reid

08 Aug 2025 — 2 min read

This is your weekly affirmation to help you build your personal philosophy. Have a great weekend!

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We refuse to be the one who is always giving more, and we start from a place of equality until we have accumulated enough wealth and boundaries to be able to give our excess. Without the starting point of equality, we cannot work towards equity. 50/50 should be the baseline, and then we work to seek what is individually fair for us. We do not want to remain the poorer sex because of our unpaid domestic labor acting as a negative compounding factor in our lives. Whether it is time, money or attention, if we feel we are being treated unfairly within a relationship, we speak up, voice our concern and maintain the equilibrium.

Actions

Split Like a Pro: Use apps like Splitwise to divvy up bills, so you’re not “accidentally” covering all the brunches. Let them know you’re a partner, not a sponsor.
Call Out Imbalance: If you’re always doing the cooking or planning dates, say, “Hey, teamwork makes the dream work—your turn next time!” Keep it playful but firm.
Set the Standard Early: From day one, make it clear you value mutual effort. If they're not stepping up, ask yourself: is this the vibe I’m going for?

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