Sorry but I'm bored of corporate feminism
I am prepping for tonights Stack World workshop and I had to stop because I'm bored. It's concepts and ideas I've talked about already (attachment theory), I wrote about it in my book (Know Your Attachment Style) and I've recorded videos on it here and here.
I hate repeating myself, regurgitating ideas and reducing things to a soundbite. I guess it's why I'm not an internet superstar, BUT I do feel secure in my knowledge and thats the most important thing, to me.
Same same, but different.
Because I’ve seen and said it all before. I’ve recorded hundreds of videos, written thousands of words, read for hours, spent days in conversation with women — real women — about their lives, their choices, their relationships, their work. And the thing I’ve learned the most is that there is no silver bullet, no soundbite, no simple framework for gender inequity.
No podcast, or single book, or column in a magazine is going to solve the issue. So why does the production mill keep churning out these untruths?
Gender inequity is instead a complex system, layered by history, economics, culture. Acquiring self-power is a political issue. It's a system that women RESIDE in, not that we control, and it's made up of multiple factors.
It includes your race, but not just your race. It includes your skin tone, your features, your hair type. It includes who you marry, what your accent is, how tall you are, where you went to school, how you were spoken to as a child, what was expected of you, what was praised, what was punished.
It shows up everywhere, and it rarely announces itself clearly. It’s subtle, cumulative, ambient. It’s in the room before you even walk in. Now I feel how I imagine every previous wave of women's thinkers and writers feel about gender inequity: tell me something new.
Women is not a monolith
I’ve pulled back from speaking on women’s issues publicly, not because I’m afraid, but because I don’t think I have the authority to speak on it in a definitive way — and that’s even with all my experience, all the reading, all the writing.
The reason for this is
